25 lessons I learned as a Special Forces officer, entrepreneur, and father. 1. Your values are not up for debate. Everything else is. 2. People follow leaders they trust. 3. Hitting rock bottom showed me who I really was. 4. Quitting alcohol taught me what real freedom feels like. 5. If your business can’t run…

My client sent me this recommendation a few weeks ago. I’m sharing it because one line in it stopped me. “for me it brought more awareness, more calm, and the ability to recognize more quickly when I’m acting from anxiety instead of clarity.” -Acting from anxiety instead of clarity- That’s not a coaching outcome most…

If you don’t build a wall around your attention the world walks in and steals your life. Most entrepreneurs I know are reactive by default. Their day starts with someone else’s agendaand never really recovers from that first five minutes. They’re busy all day and can’t tell you what they actually built.Here’s the three-step system…

In 2015, I threw my 8-year-old daughter out of a plane. Queenstown, New Zealand. 14,000 feet. Tandem skydive. Most parents would have screamed “stop the plane”I high-fived her. When she landed she ran to me and said:“That was so amazing. I want to do it every day.” People asked: what kind of father does that?…

Carl Jacobi, one of the greatest mathematicians of the 19th century, had one rule he applied to every problem he couldn’t solve: Invert. Always invert. Don’t ask how to succeed.Ask how to guarantee failure. Flip the question, and the answer becomes obvious. I first came across this idea in 2009,at a point in my life…

When the email lands, when the deal collapses, when the fight starts, your body triggers a hijack. Your IQ literally drops. The amygdala (lizard brain) takes over.The prefrontal cortex (logic brain) goes offline. You become stupider. Faster. And in those 10 seconds,you make decisions that take 10 years to undo. You can’t think your way…