There are three lies high-performers tell themselves.
And call them strength.
The first one is “I’m fine.”
It’s the most common.
The most rehearsed.
Said to their team, their partner, their kids.
Said in the mirror at 6am when nothing actually feels fine.
The thing about “I’m fine” is, it starts as a shield.
It ends as a prison.
Because the longer you say it..
the less you remember what the truth even feels like.
The second lie is about the body.
“I’ll fix my health after this quarter”
Here’s the philosophical problem with that:
You are not separate from your body.
You are your body.
And it’s keeping score even when you’re not looking.
Biology has no interest in your revenue targets.
The third lie is the most expensive.
“I just need one more year”
I’ve watched brilliant people say this for four, five, six years straight.
Always almost there.
Always deferring the life they were supposedly building toward.
At some point “one more year” stops being a plan.
It becomes an identity.
The uncomfortable truth underneath all three?
Most high-performers aren’t strong.
They’re skilled performers of strength.
There’s a meaningful gap between those two things.
And somewhere, quietly, you already know which side of it you’re on.
Which of these three are you still holding onto?
📌 P.S. The ones who let go of these stories? They never say they wish they’d held on longer. 😆
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