๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ ๐๐ผ๐น๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ณ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ณ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ณ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ป?
๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒโ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ต๐ผ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ต๐ฒ๐น๐ฝ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ผ….
If you had a chat with โPresent Meโ and โ2014 Me,โ it would feel like two completely different people.
Seriously, itโs ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ how much we can change over time, but most people donโt realize that.
We all tend to think weโve reached our โfinal formโ or that who we are now is who weโll always be.
But thatโs a total myth.
As Dr. Daniel Gilbert puts it, โ๐๐๐บ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ด๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ถ๐๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ป๐น๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐โ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฑ.โ
Thereโs even a name for this: the End-of-History Illusion.
Itโs basically the idea that ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ข๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ด ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ช๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ ๐ช๐ฎ๐ข๐จ๐ช๐ฏ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ง๐ถ๐ต๐ถ๐ณ๐ฆ.
Thatโs why we get stuck in thinking we wonโt change much from this point on.
This is tied to the ๐ณ๐ถ๐
๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐๐ฒ๐ that Dr. Carol Dweck talks about in her bestseller ยดMindsetยด.
A fixed mindset makes you believe that your abilitiesโlike intelligence or talentโare set in stone.
But the thing is, ๐ธ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ด๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐๐ต.
Once you understand that, you can set bigger, bolder goals because the person who will achieve them isnโt โyouโ right nowโitโs the future version of you.
๐ ๐ธ๐ช๐ญ๐ฅ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฅ๐ช๐ง๐ง๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฏ.
And that future you will make mistakes, learn, growโand thatโs all part of the process.
Youโre not stuck, youโre evolving.
Donโt believe me?
Think about who you were 10 years ago.
What were you into? What did you care about? What were your goals?
I bet your life was completely different back then, right?
So why wouldnโt you change just as much in the next 10 years?
Hereโs the truth: your current self is just temporary.
Youโre always becoming someone new.
๐ฆ๐ผ, ๐ฎ๐๐ธ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ณ: ๐ช๐ต๐ผ ๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ?
And start imagining how amazing that future version of you can be!
PS: This picture shows me, 10 years ago. I totally stopped drinking alcohol in December 2014 (and still donยดt).
A very different person indeed. ๐
Who do you want your future self to be?
