One military principle saved my marriage 100+ times. But it also works wonders for business owners and other leaders:
“Choose your battles.”
In combat, it’s obvious:
You don’t engage every enemy. React to every threat. Chase every target.
Why?
Because resources are finite:
• Energy
• Ammo
• Time
The same applies to relationships.
Yet I see people making habit out of:
– Fighting EVERY battle.
– Challenging EVERY issue.
– Correcting EVERY mistake.
But:
– Most battles don’t need fighting.
– Most points don’t need proving.
– Most issues resolve themselves.
Here’s the actionable item that changed everything for me:
The 10-10-10 Rule:
Before engaging in any conflict, ask yourself:
“Will this matter in…
• 10 minutes?
• 10 months?
• 10 years?”
If it’s not a “yes” for at least two, let it go.
I used this yesterday:
My wife did not let me finish my sentence
(again btw 😄 guess I´m too slow for her).
10-10-10?
• 10 minutes: Yes (Ok, probably not even)
• 10 months: No
• 10 years: No way
Battle avoided. Energy saved. Relationship stronger.
Your challenge:
– Apply the 10-10-10 rule to your next potential conflict.
Sometimes, the biggest victories come from the battles you choose not to fight.
What battle will you NOT fight today?
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BONUS: It turns out that my wife loves to receive compliments. It could be it´s JUST my wife….but give it a try this weekend…😄
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