Nobody told me, ´You should become a Commando´. It was my Must. ⚔️
You are at a crossroads: Shoulds vs Must. 👇
Ever wonder why high achievers often feel empty despite their success?
It’s because they’re winning at ‘should’ while losing at ‘must’.
Let me explain…
‘Should’ is the operating system others installed in you:
• Parents (“you should pursue this career”)
• Society (“you should hit these milestones”)
• Culture (“you should follow this path”)
• Peers (“you should play it safe”)
But ‘Must’? That’s different.
‘Must’ is your core truth.
Your non-negotiable.
Your alive zone.
It’s what makes your heart rate spike and your eyes light up.
For me, that was becoming a Special Operations Operator.
My calling.
There have been others after that, and I´m sure more will come.
Your truest self knows this best:
• What lights you up when no one’s watching?
• What would you do if failure wasn’t possible?
• What makes you lose track of time?
Why we often resist our ‘Must’:
– Financial security feels safer than authenticity
– Other people’s approval becomes our guiding compass
– Comfort zones become prison cells
Want to find your ‘Must’?
It can be challenging. Your ´shoulds´ are plentiful.
What do YOU want?
Ask yourself:
• What did you love before the world told you what to love?
• What do you envy in others?
• What would you do if you had unlimited resources?
• What makes you forget to check your phone? 😃
The patterns in your answers?
That’s your ‘Must’ trying to surface.
Three Action Steps:
– Identify one ‘should’ that’s not truly yours
– Replace it with one small ‘must’ action
– Execute daily, without permission or apology
This uncomfortable truth might sting:
• ‘Should’ builds someone else’s dream
• ‘Must’ builds your legacy
The greatest risk isn’t failing at your ‘must’.
It’s succeeding at your ‘should’.
What’s your ‘Must’?
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