Sometimes I get very upset. ‘People’ are usually the reason. I quickly reset with these 2 questions.
Maybe it happens to you, too.
Somebody does or doesn’t do something, and I get upset.
Not even disappointed, no: Angry.
Does not happen often.
But it´s not pretty.
I know it is my own fault. I should be in control of my reactions.
Event + Reaction = Outcome, right?
But sometimes one slips through the cracks.
And even though my ego loves it when I add drama to my life, it makes me feel awful.
Do you have the same problem?
Here are 2 questions I ask myself to get back on track within 60 seconds before the whole thing spirals out of control:
1. ‘Do I want to give this person the power over my emotional state?’
Oof… that one gets to me every time. ‘Of course not!’
So I don’t allow it. No way.
2. ‘Exactly how long do I want to be upset about this event?’
This is a funny one.
Because the answer is silly: ‘I’ll be upset about this event for exactly 83 minutes straight!’
You know that at some point, you will probably not remember the event or laugh about it.
So why not right now, this minute? You choose.
Next time you get upset, use these 2 simple questions.
They have saved me from doing stupid stuff more times than I can count.
What hack helps you de-escalate? Let me know!
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